Buddy comes with a event with a married guy – and I also require advice

Buddy comes with a event with a married guy – and I also require advice

Within the past you all have now been a tremendous assistance for my own relationship issue (i acquired over it and I’m really delighted for choosing to leave!! Thanks, dudes! ).

Today i might like to hear your advice on another issue involving certainly one of my most readily useful feminine buddies with who we additionally share a condo. We’re both inside our early 30’s and, besides sharing a complete large amount of typical passions, love venturing out every now and then. Being single, we’re also available to fulfilling someone because the two of us would like to find somebody special for a long-term relationship and, preferably, also wedding. About four weeks ago we went for afterwork products and met some guy (41) who was simply in city for work. He asked for the bar suggestion (we had been going to leave) and because he seemed good and courteous, we decided on joining him. I possibly could positively inform which they had been immediately drawn to each other. He didn’t make me feel being the fifth wheel plus it had been a truly good, fun night. We went house after a few hours and ended up being feeling happy for my buddy. They finished up making love in their college accommodation (that is completely fine, we don’t judge her) and it also became clear that, he really was into her. Although they had intercourse therefore quickly,. He called each day, delivered pretty small texts, wished to see her again. From my standpoint, he had been a bit over-the-top because he informed her straight away he believes he dropped in love and that he’s wondering the way they might make it work (he’s located in a town in regards to a 3 hour automobile trip far from us), but at that time I became nevertheless excited for my buddy. He appeared like a great man. Really effective, rich, handsome, but additionally funny, good, courteous, charming and smart. Pretty everything that is much friend ever imagined (she’s kinda into rich/successful guys who spoil her).

A few days after that time, he confessed that he’s been hitched for ten years.

A few days from then on time, he confessed that he’s been hitched for ten years. Their wedding is unhappy, the spouse very controlling and, evidently, she’s going right on through chemo (or simply just went because she is battling cancer for the 2nd time since they’re married through it. He said he never cheated on her behalf before and cares, it is really unhappy, specially she doesn’t (and now can’t have them anymore due to her illness) because he wants to have kids and. We felt extremely harmful to my buddy (together with spouse) and thought things had been going to end. But to my surprise that is biggest, my buddy began an event with him and things happen therefore strange from the time. Needless to say, I attempted speaking with her, but she generally seems to get some good pleasure from this “competitive situation”, blames the spouse because “apparently she can’t doesn’t give him what he actually needs” and hopes for the next with him. They will have seen each other twice since that evening and all sorts of they are doing is certainly going out to fancy dinners after which having hours of unprotected (. ) intercourse. (which they also prefer to film. Smh).

He calls her one or more times each and every day, delivers texts stating that he really loves her and can keep their wife within a few months, that he’s gonna buy her an engagement ring, that she’s the love of their life, he would like to have children together with her an such like. He buys her good gifts, is making getaway plans, plans on relocating together and it is telling her 1000 lovey-dovey romantic things. He gets unfortunate when she does not instantly texts “i love you” straight blonde sexy babes straight back (that I think is strange, but oh well). They met, he even said that she needs to stop drinking wine because “they might become parents and he really wants to have babies with her. ” She’s hoping for him to leave his sick wife and for them to become an official couple when she didn’t take the-morning-after-pill last time.